Learning how to take criticism for something that we’ve poured hearts into can be hard. But harder still, is when that criticism comes from within. More often than not, we are our own worst enemy, and we may have evolution to blame. According to this article from Livescience when we experience a setback, or a result doesn’t meet expectations it may trigger the “fight” of the fight or flight response and without an external target, we aim inward. Fortunately there is a secondary “nurturing” system in place that runs on a naturally occurring hormone, Oxytocin, which helps to temper the frustration of failure.
But in a world where the entire planet is up for comparison via the internet it’s easier than ever to be dissatisfied when our projects don’t stack up, especially when trying something new. This is why it’s so important to remember that even the greats, the Mozarts and Michelangelos, the Einsteins and Teslas, had to start somewhere. Ira Glass explains it best in his short The Gap “It’s gonna take awhile. It’s normal to take awhile. You’ve just gotta fight your way through.” So keep at it. Don’t beat yourself up. See each challenge as bump on a long road to something cool, and feed your nurturing side with popcorn and comics:)